⭐️⭐️⭐️For divorced women living alone whose children are out of the house⭐️⭐️⭐️
I felt inspired to write this article because it took me a few months to figure out a few things about myself and come to a successful conclusion. This article may or may not resonate with you, however, my wish is if it can help you, or even if it only helps one woman, then my wish will have been achieved😍
👉👉…And again, from 8 July 2020, all Melbournians are back in lockdown for 6 weeks, which of course includes me.
Well, this came as no surprise to me and I’m not even stressed about it.
Why? Let me explain…
👉During the first 6 week lockdown period starting from March 2020, almost the whole world was in lockdown. During this time I had a little wobbly moment which caused me to “book an appointment with myself” (so to speak) and have a good look at why I felt a little uneasy.
👉Looking historically at myself: I acknowledge that I’ve always been a “glass half full” kind of girl. I’m fortunate that I’ve never experienced depression or anxiety in any form. I’ve lived in 3 beautiful countries, travelled extensively, have an amazing career and 2 wonderful adult children who have great careers who live in their own homes and are independent of me. In fact, I often say that I’m a happy little munchkin and I love my life❣️
🔥So why did I have a little wobbly during the first lockdown?
👉It took me a few months of soul searching and I finally found the answer:
❤️In essence – I miss my children. It’s as simple as that! I’ve always had very strong maternal instincts and when they revealed that they were struggling with the concept of being locked down and the reality of the consequences of destruction that was moving rapidly around the globe – all I wanted to do was immediately go and physically comfort them. I wanted to cuddle them and have the 3 of us with our arms around each other in a group hug❤️
I was overwhelmed because I was prevented from doing this and it was at this point that I felt very heart sore;
🔥A) Because I couldn’t have any physical contact with them. Even worse, my son lives in London and neither of us could get on a plane to visit each other.
🔥B) I didn’t have a trusted partner to turn to and confide in him.
💥Results of A: Upon further examination of myself, in order to satisfy my strong maternal instincts, I discovered that I have a strong desire to look after something living every day which involves feeding and loving them – with myself receiving love in return. This explains why I have 3 of the most wonderful cats whom love me unconditionally.
💥Results of B: I’ve come to the conclusion that I have possible trust and commitment issues. Since my divorce, I’ve always been very comfortable with my own company, keeping everyone at arm’s length. In fact, I have not had the slightest inkling of looking for a partner or even attempting to use an online dating site. Many of my female friends don’t understand my thinking and they try to encourage me to start dating. Whilst I enjoy socialising and always have a good laugh, I also enjoy my own company and I have to admit I might even be classified as a bit of a loner.
👉In order to achieve the results of A & B, I embarked on a number of self-development strategies. I reached out for guidance from my mentor and I also completed “homework” tasks that I allocated to myself. I had to dig very deep to complete my homework which made me feel very vulnerable (and a bit of an idiot) – a feeling which I’m not accustomed to due to the fact that I’m always in “protection mode” not trusting anyone by keeping everyone at arm’s length from me.
👉In conclusion: I’m back to being a happy little munchkin and I have promised myself (yes! It’s a commitment to myself) to be more open minded to everyone going forward. At the same time, I’m still completely comfortable with my own company and my fur kids😻😻😻
🌺New challenges🌺
👉👉I’m taking advantage of the next 6 weeks and have given myself 1 personal challenge and 1 business challenge. I’m super pumped to achieve to my new goals!😍
If you want to know more about my personal development strategies in this article, you are welcome contact me.
I love my life❣️
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